We often talk about masturbation with women in clinic: 27.5% of women between the ages of 25 and 29 don’t masturbate, a number which rises to 68.6% for women ages 70 and older. Some of our patients are interested in learning how to do it for the first time, others may be interested in learning new techniques, but no matter the case, there are several resources we offer our patients that we think you should know about.
1. Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving by Betty Dodson, PhD
Betty Dodson is a sexual educator with a doctorate in sexology, as both a best-selling author and recipient of several awards, such as the public service award from the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, she is considered an expert in sexuality. In all of the hours I spent looking for the best masturbation resources, I came across her name constantly, after all of my clicking and scrolling, it became clear that Betty Dodson is a controversial woman. Explorative and taboo are the essence of her work. Sexual education from Dodson is unorthodox, blunt even- and thank goodness because what is conventional about this conversation and aren’t we sick of tip-toeing around the subject?
This book, her most popular, is a great resource in learning how to masturbate. Not only does it use words and images to explain how to physically approach masturbation, it also helps to break down mental reserves that women may have about masturbation. Often times, learning to masturbate is more difficult than finding the clitoris- for many women it can involve overcoming years of the shame that has been associated with female masturbation. So for an all-encompassing introduction to understanding the ‘why’s and ‘how’s of masturbation, this book is a great choice.
2. How to Masturbate with a Vagina: 28 Tips and Tricks for Solo Play written by Annamarya Scaccia and reviewed by Janet Brito, PhD
Healthline, a medically reviewed magazine, recently published this comprehensive article. If you Google ‘how to masturbate’ you’ll find many more articles than you’d ever want to read (trust me). So what’s so great about this one? It’s inclusive! Every learning style, every level of experience, every type of orgasm is accounted for and tailored to. Covered are the health benefits, types of masturbation, and detailed instructions on how to have an orgasm. While the advice in this article is sourced from university backed research as well as American Psychological Association publications, the way it is given makes it easy to get. This article is kind of like talking to your sexually adventurous friend, only 2.0; she knows more, she’s organized, and she’s ditched the ‘creative liberty.’ Combined into this one article are many detailed tips and useful suggestions. If you’re really looking to learn about masturbation and want to get straight to the point- this article is a fantastic resource.
Quite predictably, I’ve saved the coolest for last. In learning to masturbate, OMGYes is the latest innovation and has definitely stirred the pot. This website is the product of a largescale study that included over 1,000 women who were studied by physiologists and behavioral psychologists to find and name successful female masturbation techniques. With the goal of smashing taboos and teaching tricks, OMGYes offers 62 videos from women of ages 18-95 talking all about masturbation as well as 11 interactive videos meant to train women in masturbation techniques. From personable anecdotes to nitty gritty demonstrations – OMGYes offers many approaches to masturbation education and is straightforward about it. Of course, the very thing that makes OMGYes a breakthrough for female orgasms can be off putting- it is EXPLICIT. A bit of blushing is to be expected, but you can be certain that the women at OMGYes are not holding back. Though this is a paid resource (users pay a one time $39 fee), for many women it may be money well spent.
Exploring masturbation can be intimidating; there’s a lot to know and not a lot of talk about it. You’re not alone if you’re interested in learning more, but not sure where to start.
*Note: Any referenced materials are offered as examples and are not endorsements or sponsorship of specific products or tools. We provide examples to help make this information easier to understand. WomanLab does not have funding or sponsorship from these products or places.
Edited by Megan DePumpo